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Christmas Time Imprint Strategy

Saturday, December 25th, 2010

This year the family decided that we were not going to celebrate Christmas like we always have. With the search of faith by the young one and explorations into other religions Christmas was turning more into a day of gift giving for us personally. When the girls first said that we would not need to do the gift exchange and put up the tree and lights I was pleased. My thought was one of relief in that this year we could avoid the tree and stringing lights around the house for just us to see. I would not need to plan a big dinner and we would not need to spend the time out in the malls and stores looking for the right gift for each other. I am typically an early shopper and have everything by Thanksgiving to avoid the typical rush. This year we were going to avoid all of this so I was pleased.

It appears that our family did bypass the stress of the holiday allowing us to keep focus on work and day to day activities.  We watched others stress and run around which was nice and quite often we were thankful about our decision. I still found myself secretly looking for gifts for Mardee and T though and restrained myself. There was even a time where I found this great sentimental ring that I thought would show Mardee how much she means to me. I called her in to take a look at it to see if a sparkle appeared in her eyes which would say buy it for me but it didn’t. She seemed uninterested. I learned a technique from my dad years ago that when you are not supposed to buy gifts you avoid the day of gift giving and you get them something out of necessity earlier so you can give a gift without giving one.  That worked and we did a secret gift giving after Thanksgiving without giving a gift.

Now it is Christmas day and my day is just like any other day except something is missing. At first my question was did I let my family down because we did not spend the thousand dollars on gifts and enjoy the stress of the Christmas Holiday? I reflected on my self worth as well,  just because we chose not to exchange gifts on this day. Was this programmed into my belief system so deep that not doing it had this kind of effect on my self confidence? It appears that the holiday systems that we put into place does have an ability to effect people negatively as well. We can link this holiday to several internal anchors and emotions.

We chose to not exchange gifts and it still rocked me a little bit.  I woke up wanting to go buy presents and to right this situation. I walked downstairs and there was no family gathering and no bonding over opening up gifts. Is this what it is like to not celebrate Christmas? I spent some time checking to see if anyone else felt this way and it appears that I am the only person that has tied my “ego” to Christmas. Could it be that over the years I have listened to the men in the family talk about providing Christmas for the children. My uncles and my dad proud of the Christmas that they provided their families growing up. Is there a time that everyone reaches where they no longer provide for a Christmas and does everyone go through this stage? Is this why grandchildren are important to keep us celebrating Christmas and to keep this feeling alive for our own egos as well? Can we become so material in our existence that we tie who we are to what we have? It appears that the answer is that even when we are not aware of it at times we can and do.

Imagine what it might be like for the people that did not make the choice today and could not. My thoughts go out to them and I hope they are able to embrace what the holiday is really about. It is not just about religion to say that a Christian is the only person that will celebrate today.  The point is not really why we are celebrating Christmas because we all have our own reasons today. The point is that Christmas can also be a habit and when that habit is broken for whatever reason the result can be very enlightening as it was for me today.

We can link Christmas to our own ego and ability to provide for our family. We can link Christmas to our role in the family as well. Christmas can become a demanding stressful time where it becomes something different than what we want. This year I learned first hand how I have linked Christmas to ego, role and my own internal state. How over the years what I have taken as the simple role of exchanging gifts can become linked to who I am as well. I think this is also why my parents and sister have chosen to still have Christmas the way they do. They take $100.00 and buy their own presents. Wrap them and open them up in front of each other every year.

It is not the presents that matter it is the feeling we get when we open them in front of the people we care the most for it seems. It is that time when we are surrounded by the ones we love the most and the simple act of unwrapping something could signify a new beginning as well to us. It could be opening up a part of us with each unwrapping that creates a bond that we will remember forever. Maybe the wrapping paper is like a part of us that we choose to uncover and share with the ones around us that is deep inside us.

I am pleased that I learned these lessons today and that I took the time to break old connections so I can appreciate Christmas for what it is today. A time for us to enjoy each other and to build real connections that we share with each other and with that higher power that we can all find comfort in. Call it what you want today just take the time to appreciate that today you can be a little nicer and can appreciate what you have because everyone does not have the ability to celebrate it like you are today.

Today is a day that’s filled with miracles of all kinds. A day that we should notice just how important these miracles are so we appreciate them more each day. Don’t feel sorry for people that don’t have what you do because from what I have discovered today they might have something that we have been overlooking with our success.  Today is like every other day that we choose to make special. Take time today to know why it is special for you and maybe tomorrow will be a special day as well.

May your holidays be filled with miracles and joy my friends.

Mystically yours,

Doc Magi

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Unlock your Self Improvement Power Today!

Tuesday, March 23rd, 2010

When we look at a certain object, a painting for example – we won’t be able to appreciate what’s in it, what is painted and what else goes with it  if the painting is just an inch away from our face. But if we try to take a look at it a little further away, we’ll have a clearer vision of the whole art work.

We reach a point in our life when we are ready for change and and the ability to embrace a whole bunch of information that will help us unlock our self improvement power. Until then, something can be staring at us right under our nose but we don’t see it.  The only time we think of unlocking our self improvement power is when everything has gotten worse. Take the frog principle for example –

Try placing Frog A in a pot of boiling water. What happens? He twerps! He jumps off! Why? Because he is not able to tolerate the sudden change in his environment – the water’s temperature.

Then try Frog B: place him in a luke warm water, then turn the gas stove on. Wait til the water reaches a certain boiling point. Frog B then thinks “Ooh… it’s a bit warm in here”.

People are like Frog B in general. Today, Anna thinks Carl hates her. Tomorrow, Patrick walks up to her and tells her he hates her. Anna stays the same and doesn’t mind what her friends says. The next day, she learned that Kim and John also abhors her. Anna doesn’t realize at once the importance and the need for self improvement until the entire community hates her.

We learn our lessons when we experience pain. We finally see the warning signs and signals when things get rough and tough.

When do we realize that we need to change diets? When none of our jeans and shirts would fit us.

When do we stop eating candies and chocolates? When all of our teeth has fallen off.

When do we realize that we need to stop smoking? When our lungs have gone bad.

When do we pray and ask for help? When we realize that we’re gonna die tomorrow.

The only time most of us ever learn about unlocking our self improvement power is when the whole world is crashing and falling apart. We think and feel this way because it is not easy to change. But change becomes more painful when we ignore it.

Change will happen, like it or hate it. At one point or another, we are all going to experience different turning points in our life – and we are all going to eventually unlock our self improvement power not because the world says so, not because our friends are nagging us, but because we realized its for our own good.

Happy people don’t just accept change, they embrace it. Now, you don’t have to feel a tremendous heat before realizing the need for self improvement.  Unlocking your self improvement power means unlocking yourself the cage of thought that is “its just the way I am”. It is such a poor excuse for people who fear and resist change. Most of us program our minds like computers.

Jenny repeatedly tells everyone that she doesn’t have the guts to be around groups of people. She heard her mom, her dad, her sister, her teacher tell the same things about her to other people. Over the years, that is what Jen believes. She believes its her story. And what happens? Every time a great crowd would develop over their house, in school, and in the community – she tends to step back, shy away and lock herself up in a room. Jenny didn’t only believe in her story, she lived it.

Jenny has to realize that she is not what she is in her story. Instead of having her story continually pushed in her face for everyone to remember, she has to have the spirit and show people “I am an important person and I should be treated accordingly!”

Self improvement may not be everybody’s favorite word, but if we look at things with a different point of view, we might have greater chances of enjoying the whole process instead of counting the days until we change. Three sessions in a week at the gym would result to a healthier life, reading books instead of looking at movies will shape up a more profound knowledge, going out with friends and peers will help you take a step back from work and unwind.  And just when you are enjoying the whole process of unlocking your self improvement power, you’ll realize that you’re beginning to take things light and become happy.  After a while you won’t even be able to remember what it was like to be the way you were before no matter how hard you try.

Mystically yours,

Michael Holt, Ph.D.
Magi Institute of Natural Medicine

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